The “Truth” About Wealthy People

March 20, 2012

Research has now “proven” what so many suspect.

Yes, rich people are unsympathetic assholes, to paraphrase this article on LearnVest daily. Financially wealthy people have no empathy, they lack social skills, they are selfish, and more unethical than people who are broke.

So all of you that would like to make a good living doing ethical, purpose-driven work, based on your empathy and social skills? Well, if you make a lot of money doing it, you are destined to become a class-A jerk.

Your worst nightmare come true.

Bull. Shit.

This legacy belief about financial means is SO pervasive and it is complete and utter crap.

As a kid, I remember a consistent message that money ruined people – that it was impossible for someone with financial wealth to be a good person. Hell, in the book of Matthew in the bible it says, “Again I tell you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.”

So even the church has attributed shitty properties to people with money. We’re practically born with this story, aren’t we?

That must mean that if you are kind and empathetic and you want to help heal the world that you are doomed to being poor. And that only in that state of poor-ness can you possibly hope to STAY kind, empathetic, compassionate and retain your social skills.

Well, you will find what you look for.

I know plenty of people who are financially well-off who are lovely, generous, kind and amazing people who are doing incredible work to heal our world. And I’ve also known poor people who would take your breath away with their cruelty and short-sighted behavior.

There is rich and abundant evidence for ANY and ALL of it.  If you want to believe that rich people are slimy jerks, I bet you will find that to be true.  If you believe that wealthy people do amazing and world-changing work in the world, you can find that as well. Because here is the thing – people are people. Some use their powers for good, and others just don’t.

The bottom line is that you get to choose.

And yogini, please do.

Because tell me – do you think it would even be POSSIBLE to build a successful business that brings you financial stability, let alone wealth, if you have an underlying legacy belief that people who have money suck? Even if you generate a lot of income, I am going to bet that it won’t stick around if you have bought into this legacy that so many have about financial wealth.

Pursue the beliefs and the actions that create what you truly desire.

You get to choose who you want to be in the world – like the ethical, empathic, and world-changing women I know you are. In addition, you can ALSO decide you would like to be financially stable and cultivate inner – AND outer – wealth on your terms – including a wealth of friends, love, laughter, inner peace, travel, philanthropy, and yes, money… whatever true wealth means to you.

Don’t let anyone tell you there is an “upside” to broke – OR to wealthy.

You decide for you, yogini.  YOU decide the truth for YOU.

Namasté, business yogini!

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    Crystal March 20, 2012 at 3:48 pm

    Ohh, Nona, what a lovely rant! Preach it!

    You know what sprang to mind? Folks say others are “filthy” rich. Or “stinking” rich. But then again, folks say others are “dirt” poor.

    Apparently the problem isn’t being rich or poor, or clean or dirty, but in looking at other people (and ourselves) in that way. xoxo

    bettina March 20, 2012 at 8:05 pm

    oh I just LOVE this. right on sister. no reason it has to be not for profit to be good.

    nona March 20, 2012 at 8:44 pm

    @crys: yes and yes and well, HELL YES!! Thank you for coming to sing in the choir with me…

    @Bettina: absolutely! The more people who make profits ethically with a spirit of service and healing, the better off everyone will be!!!

    xoxo

    Laurie Foley March 21, 2012 at 8:32 am

    Great post, Nona. What fascinates me is WHY we have always had such stories. What aim do they serve? I’d love to hear your thoughts because I think then we could defuse them even more effectively.

    My hunch is that there is something very tribal about one’s financial position and that we deeply fear losing our place in the tribe (and losing relationships) by either shifting up or down.

    Nothing like fear to get people talking smack.
    Laurie Foley´s last blog post ..The Price of Mystery

    nona March 21, 2012 at 9:57 am

    Laurie, I think it is about power and community – like you say. But it is so habitual, and so destructive if we are trying to build a viable business, that we must make a choice and really dig in to see if we hold any part of that story to be true. Thank you so much for commenting. xoxo

    Florence March 21, 2012 at 8:32 am

    I often think in terms of the gospel according to musical theater, and this is one of my favorites, from “Hello, Dolly:”

    Money, pardon the expression, is like manure: it isn’t worth a thing unless it’s spread around to help young thing grow.”
    Florence´s last blog post ..Outside the Lines

    nona March 21, 2012 at 9:48 am

    Flo, I agree – there is a way to use wealth intentionally and that really supports goodness. XOXO

    Sarah Yost March 24, 2012 at 12:24 pm

    I need to lovingly dissent.

    I can do whatever I want with my wealth. I can squander it. I can use it for good. I can hide it. I can embrace it. I can ignore it. I can invest it. I can support Anthropologie’s quarterly profits.

    Because it’s just money, right? And it’s my own life and I’m autonomous.
    Sarah Yost´s last blog post ..Free class + crazy breath thing

    nona March 24, 2012 at 12:58 pm

    @Sarah, I think we are in agreement – perhaps you misunderstood my emphasis. xoxo

    shanna March 21, 2012 at 8:33 am

    I agree with you Nona…but man….that is not the norm. I work in the yoga world and I have seen so many people start out with amazing intentions only to turn into royal assholes when money is involved.

    Again, I agree with you….and it can become the norm…..but I’m just saying…..
    shanna´s last blog post ..Trip Hop For Your Yoga Practice

    nona March 21, 2012 at 10:25 am

    @shanna, thank you for commenting – I’m sure it’s true. And there are also people who become wealthy who do amazing work in the world. Assholes are present in all social classes. I simply want to encourage people to make sure that this legacy belief is not holding them – or their businesses – back in unintended ways. xoxo

    Jackie D. March 21, 2012 at 12:16 pm

    So true. Some of the kindest people I’ve ever met were wealthy and used their money to help and heal other. Here’s to hoping smart decisions will put me in their place one day.
    Jackie D.´s last blog post ..Born to Run

    Jessica March 21, 2012 at 12:20 pm

    I love the reminder that you get to choose. You get to choose how to look at everything — money, challenges, everything. And how you look at it becomes you reality. Excellent advice, as always.
    Jessica´s last blog post ..Wellness Week – 7 Favorite Tips

    nona March 21, 2012 at 3:10 pm

    @Jessica: Absolutely – what power and beauty there is in our ability to choose for ourselves!! XOXO

    Bri March 21, 2012 at 12:58 pm

    Nona Jordan I LOVE you!!!
    Yes! This message is so timely and so required. I am sick of hearing people tell me that to do what they love they have to be poor, forever–why?! Your signature program sounds awesome, I would love to learn more because I think some of my peeps might find it very useful!
    Bri´s last blog post ..Bloom Where You are Planted

    bettina March 21, 2012 at 1:56 pm

    Hello, I’m back. I was also reminded of the commentary ON THIS VERY TOPIC in the New York Times this Sunday vis a vis reworking the workplace. Specifically there was an article about redesigning spaces to make them more creatively productive for the way people think and gather and are their best selves. The Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation is at the forefront of this movement with their new headquarters and there are people who are up in arms about the amount of money a FOUNDATION would spend on ITSELF to which the foundation replied that its people deal with some of the most difficult and heartbreaking issues the world can throw at them, so it behooves the organization to optimize their working conditions so that they can give resolution of said problems their best shot. Good for them I say!!

    nona March 21, 2012 at 3:11 pm

    I couldn’t agree more, Bettina. XO

    nona March 21, 2012 at 3:09 pm

    I agree, Bri!! I am so ready for this story to go away so people can stop struggling and start being their most powerful selves. Thank you!! XOXO

    amy zellmer March 21, 2012 at 4:35 pm

    LOVE LOVE LOVE!! I see far too many people have a fear of success for this exact reason, they think people will look down on them or consider them a jerk because they have become successful and wealthly. YAY! Thank you for writing this!!

    Kristen March 21, 2012 at 5:22 pm

    Really liked this, Nona. Reminds me of the chapter On Money in one of my favorite books Simple Truths by Kent Nerburn. I read it over and over and over. I want to quote the entire chapter and can’t narrow it down to one sentence, so I guess I’ll just have to recommend the book.
    Kristen´s last blog post ..WIP Wednesday

    nona March 21, 2012 at 5:26 pm

    @Amy – thank you and I quite agree!!!

    @Kristen: I will look up that book – thank you!! You always have the best book recommendations. xoxo

    Leah Shapiro March 21, 2012 at 5:56 pm

    I’ll give you a big HELL YHEA!!!

    Preach it…over and over again. People need to keep hearing this one.

    If you believe that people with money suck…you will attract that very thing. AND you will never open up to money making opportunities. You will always be thinking small.
    I see this over and over again with the healers, and spiritual teachers that I know.
    I’m so glad that you are offering a solution.
    Rock on!
    Leah
    Leah Shapiro´s last blog post ..Say Yes to more You-ness!

    nona March 21, 2012 at 5:59 pm

    Absolutely, @Leah – let’s put this belief to bed and start leveraging the collective awesome of all healers!!! XO

    Sue Burness March 21, 2012 at 7:15 pm

    This is a tricky subject nona! You are serving many, many women (and men) who don’t even know what their beliefs might be! Thanks for helping people become more aware!

    I (and many other practitioners I’m involved with) work at least partially on a pay-what-you-can basis. It is a much-misunderstood concept. Some believe it means “This practitioner has limiting beliefs about money.” And sometimes that is true. And those who have not/are not addressing this in themselves are suffering.

    What is also true is that the people who worry about PWYC practitioners also have a limiting belief or two. Like” Well, if you follow that model people will take advantage.” And the truth is, what we believe about money (and everything else) is what shows up in our lives!
    Many business coaches suggest that raising fees is the answer. I disagree. Trusting in the abundance of the Universe, one’s own value and the inherent goodness of people is the answer.

    Lisa Claudia Briggs March 22, 2012 at 10:47 am

    And how (!) .. such a powerful energy to come out and name, to challenge. It’s amazing how pervasive our mistrust and negative judgements towards “the rich” are, even if subtle. And how can we create what we want to in our businesses if we have these mixed energies about money and wealth and who has it and who doesn’t. Loved this post.. your writing.. your beautiful brain, as always…

    Love and blessings,
    Lisa
    http://www.IntuitiveBody.com
    Simple Sacred Solutions To Living Beautifully In Your Body

    Claire March 22, 2012 at 12:01 pm

    Nona, Nona, Nona! You’ve done it again, the perfect post at the perfect time. The Universe has spoken through you and given me the courage I needed to find and the reassurance I was so desperatley looking for. Thank you!

    I do struggle with the concept of selling to people in need, that somehow it should all be free; but it’s resulted in me treating my venture as a hobby that lurches from one project to the next, it’s never broken through to being sustainable. A big part of that is that I’ve had this deep rooted belief that the only way to do good is through charity; but that’s not true. I’m going to start actively looking for role models who do good by running successful and profitable businesses. Thank you Nona!
    Claire´s last blog post ..Do one thing each day that scares you – ventures into video!

    Teresa March 22, 2012 at 1:42 pm

    Great post! It’s just so true: The thing about free will is that we each get to choose what sort of people we will be. How much money we have is involved in a whole other set of choices. If we’re really mindful we can nurture wealth and beautiful character concurrently. Isn’t that a beautiful thing?

    Hugs and butterflies,
    ~Teresa~
    Teresa´s last blog post ..Random Gratitude Tarot card: Four of Kindness

    Cynthia March 23, 2012 at 5:07 pm

    Maybe it isn’t that money makes the man/woman … maybe it is that the heart of a man or woman is going to be good, kind, gracious no matter rich or poor.

    I certainly grew up on the “wrong” side of class warfare. I don’t like how it shaped me and I have been working at renewing my mind to think differently.

    Thanks for this post!
    Cynthia´s last blog post ..Wake up

    Sammi Johnson March 24, 2012 at 2:38 am

    Some people seem to instinctively assume the same thoughts about wealth and rich people. It is more like a personal stuff and to me no different than the impossible task of trying to explain the unexplainable but you just gave us strong points there. I am on your side in this, our inner desire defines who we are and that for me, is the most important thing.
    Sammi Johnson´s last blog post ..Join Thousands of Other Badasses

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